ENGLISH Dante Gebel #838 | In search of the lost virtue
Honor is the lost virtue of the new generations, to whom a total lack of respect for authority has been promoted. But, for Christians, honor must be a condition of the heart. We should not honor people because they necessarily deserve it, but because we want to be the honorable ones. It is difficult to read the Bible without being exposed to a culture with levels of honor and authority. First, we must honor God, then our assignment, and then our family, our parents, our children, our authorities, and even our enemies. A challenging message!
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at a certain point during this tour
I tend to reflect on the generation of
of those of us that are leaving slowly
and I share that those of us that have
turned 50
we just turned 50. hasn’t been long but
we were and we’ll be the generation
that may never be seen again because
we’re a part of a limited edition a
limited batch
but fundamentally we’re the generation
that respected their parents
that listened to their teachers the
professors grandparents
older people
were the generation of please and thank
you and these were the two phrases the
two words that opened all the doors
please and thank you it doesn’t occur to
us
to tell an employee that works for us
without including the please or thank
you after it doesn’t matter if we’re
paying them for it because that’s how we
were brought up from a young age we were
taught to open doors for women we would
give our seats for women whether they
were old or young I know those of you
that are from farruko’s times and Justin
Bieber’s times till now you don’t
understand anything but we would give up
our seats for any women
and now because of equality the
principle of this type of Honor began to
dilute
there are feminists that sustain the
idea that giving up a seat
to a woman is a sexist act because they
supposedly they allege that this Harbors
an idea of inferiority of weakness or
disadvantage from a man to a woman
or when I give up my seat I might be
thinking oh she’s a weak woman
and there I have a need to consider her
a protector
but that’s honor it’s being a gentleman
but feminists believe that it’s a sexist
act that there’s inequality between
genders but we were brought up in a
generation that modeled honor it’s
impossible that a young person is
sitting down
while an older woman is on her feet or
any woman she doesn’t necessarily have
to be old or pregnant
if we had a moment of rebellion those of
us from my generation
we would
pretend to sleep on public transport
we would finally find a sea a pregnant
woman would come aboard and we would go
we would pretend to be snoring
the Holy Spirit would tell us don’t be a
fool get up and give her your seat
but we’re the generation that learned to
honor from a very young age
honor is that lost virtue from these new
generations sadly unfortunately
and it’s been taken almost completely
out of our culture and the result is
that the at today’s generation I might
say is the most orphaned
generation
the generation with the biggest Spirit
of of being an orphan there hasn’t been
one
with them with a bigger Spirit of
orphanage
that’s the way they live
and so why has that cultural thought
been promoted
the lack of respect for authorities
nowadays a teacher
wouldn’t even dare to give a bad grade
to a child without there being a
parent-teacher conference and there
being a whole Scandal a whole scene
remember try to remember when they would
give us a bad grade
when we would take our
grade report or school report home it
was all in red they had written it with
blood and our mother would say what did
you do you must have done something
wrong
but that that idea has disappeared if
our child has a bad grade then surely
the teacher hates him
the teacher is bullying them and we go
and
and but those of us that were educated
to honor we don’t honor people
just because they might deserve it but
because we’re honorable
we were created with honorability
for Christians honor and honorability is
a condition of the heart a style a
lifestyle why because it’s difficult to
read the Bible for example
without us being exposed to a culture
with high levels of honor and Authority
all of scripture has this Jesus said in
Matthew 10 40 anyone who welcomes you
welcomes me
anyone who honors you welcomes me
whoever honors me honors the one who
sent me
whoever honors a prophet as a prophet
will receive a prophet’s reward and
whoever honors a righteous person as a
righteous person will receive a
righteous person’s reward and if anyone
gives even a cup of cold water to one of
these little ones who was my disciple
just the cold cup of water truly I tell
you that person will certainly not lose
that reward so it’s simple in summary
Jesus speaks about honoring a prophet
then a righteous person
but then also mentions honoring little
ones it’s as if he covered every base
and the whole dynamic of authority
those that are above us
those that are are on our level and
finally the Lord says don’t forget to
honor those that are below you
those that are under your care so every
human being that we interact with
is a part of one of these three
categories above equal or below today I
say that I continue honoring my pastors
the pastors that fed us
that we’re a part of our lives at a
certain season some of them have been
mistaken have made mistakes but even
then they have a place of honor in my
heart
and it should be that way for the rest
of my life because they fed us at a
certain point in our lives they brought
us word
some of them have had serious personal
problems pastors that have been in my
life at a certain point
and someone else tells me don’t mention
them ever again because it looks
terrible but I don’t honor those that
deserve it or those that have a perfect
life I insist I’m an honorable man
that’s my Essence river is a church of
Honor river is a church that if they if
we go out to give food we honor those
that are receiving that plate of food
we don’t throw the plate at them as if
they’re lower category people no we
honor those that for this season have to
be below us for those of us that are
those that are equal to us and our
authorities but before I go deep into
today’s message I want us to quickly
in an expedited way
look at what honor means because there’s
always controversy
as to what it is there’s everyone has a
different definition but the
etymological definition is valuation
appraisal appreciation esteem
consideration respect
sometimes to understand it better
we have to look at its antonym
honors the antonym is dishonor so when
there’s no honor there’s dishonor what’s
dishonor it’s something common something
ordinary
something trivial when something’s
common we dishonor it that’s why the
Bible says that there are cups of honor
and cups of Dishonor
when he’s when it speaks of the cups of
Honor those are the ones that you put on
the table the cups of Dishonor the
hyperbole or the metaphor is
the bucket that you put under the bed
when the bathroom is too far it is
useful right especially in the field
when at two or three in the morning
someone asks where’s the where’s the
bathroom sir
oh yeah follow the moon you see where
the cow is there it is
someone might think why don’t I have a
couple of dishonorable because that’s
for something intimate it’s not for you
to be putting it on top of the table of
course but true honor according to
scripture originates in the heart
that’s why God says
that famous word
okay that not only surprises us but it
also shocks us it continues to shock me
even today Isaiah 29 13. he says these
people come near to me with their mouth
and my version in Dante’s version
it would say they came to me with their
lips and honor me with their lips but
their hearts are far from me
their worship of me is based on merely
human rules they have been taught
true honor surges from a heart that
fears God and to understand it better
I’m going to enumerate a few principles
quickly I’m still not at the main point
of the sermon but this is just to
construct the basis of what we’re going
to build the first principle
that we cannot forget is honor allows us
to access a miraculous life Jesus said
that in Nazareth they did not honor him
they saw an ordinary man they saw in him
a common man
the Bible shares in Mark 6 5 he could
not do any Miracles there in Nazareth
except play his hands on a few sick
people and heal them and I always ask to
myself why couldn’t Jesus do miracles in
his birth city
what or who stopped him because he did
great miracles in many cities whoa the
answer as to why he couldn’t do miracles
in his birthplace
is within the same people from Nazareth
in Mark 6 2 they would ask where did
this man get these things or they would
ask what’s this wisdom that has been
given him
isn’t this Mary son and brother of James
Joseph Judas and Simon
isn’t this the carpenter aren’t his
sisters here with us and they took
offense at him
asking where did he come from and Jesus
said to them a prophet is not without
honor except in his own town among his
relatives and in his own home
Mark writes at a certain moment that
even
Jesus’s blood brothers his organic
brothers or biological Brothers
were bitter and offended with Jesus
so I can imagine a name a neighbor that
you can find in every single
neighborhood with a bent broom
because of how much she gossips on the
street saying there’s no way this man
was in my son sane class what is he
saying he’s the Messiah
he used to come to my home to do
homework with my son
but all with my son someone else alleged
I met him when he was older and he built
the dining table that we use every day
we’re talking about the carpenter son in
this neighborhood really
so to summarize a life that does not
honor is alive
that is left without any access to
Miracles we can’t obtain anything
miraculous
from someone that we consider ordinary
you can’t if Jesus is just another
person
if God doesn’t produce fear in us then
the most probable thing is there won’t
be any miracles in our life the same
thing happens when we want to receive a
word from God
from someone that we don’t even consider
to speak on behalf of God that’s why I
always say
if you don’t consider a man of God a man
of God then you won’t be able to receive
any more that’s why he explains why at a
certain serve on the same service
someone can receive a lot but the person
sitting next to them
yawns like a hippo and falls asleep and
you say it’s the same service it’s the
same message well there are people that
comment on our videos
and and they say it’s my dream to be a
river but every time you focus on
someone they’re asleep well the
explanation is that some one person
arrived to honor God and the other
person came to the service to lose two
hours of their life so when there’s no
expectation when you don’t honor the
service
when you don’t say today I wake up to
honor God today I’m going to wash my
face because I’m going to honor God when
you simply say I have to go to church
today then you won’t receive Miracles
it’s the same Lord the same presence one
honors and the other doesn’t right
second principle honor
makes it so that we treat
our enemies with respect
this
but even the Archangel Michael when he
was disputing with the devil about the
body of Moses did not himself dare to
condemn him for a slander but said
this is going to make some people’s
theology uncomfortable but it’s
it’s in the Bible the book of Judas is
in the Canon
the angel said to the enemy the Lord
rebuke you
and Jude adds yet these people slander
whatever they do not understand and the
Very things they do understand by
Instinct as irrational animals do will
destroy them
what strong words
we have to be very careful to not curse
what we do not know
sometimes they show me something on
YouTube they say oh look at this
movement from God look the people are
are
trembling like animals at this church
but I’ve learned that if I don’t
understand it I cannot judge I don’t
know how God measures others
God measures your heart but we measure
what we can see
and despite God’s warning of
it I do I don’t see what men see
but even then we continue to judge
People based on what we see based off
what we like and what we don’t like
so I don’t know how God measures us I’m
convinced that in heaven we’re going to
find people
that we thought we’d never even see on
the sidewalk in front of a church and
then there will be others that we
thought would surely be in heaven that
won’t be there God measures in a
different way and if somebody
deserved dishonor it was the devil
but Michael the Archangel didn’t dare
the angel said to him the Lord rebuke
you
go deal with it with the one that
created you he never said oh you an
animal you filthy swine no he respected
him
and some might say well how how can that
be
the Archangel Michael simply said the
Lord rebuke you
and that’s all we should do
we should say it’s not me but it’s the
Lord who will deal with you third
principle those that know how to honor
not only bless when they see a need for
example those that have the mentality of
a rat
those that have the mentality of Jerry
we’ll always think well
well why don’t you give money where
there’s more need why don’t you go to
Africa why are you Furnishing those nice
homes in the US there are people that
consider giving only if there’s need
they suffer the syndrome of Judas why
are you
wasting this perfume Jesus why don’t we
just sell it and give the money to the
poor it sounds spiritual but it’s a mine
that doesn’t have
the slightest idea of what it means to
honor Judas didn’t understand
honor
that perfume that was
used to him was a waste that’s why some
people don’t know how to offer they just
give change
because the Bible says honor honor
Jehovah with your belongings and the
first fruits of all that you harvest so
when I’m going to give an offering I
have to ask myself not if the bill is
big or little but if I’m truly doing it
to honor him because you can be like the
Widow it’s the last thing you have and
you’re honoring God with your two
pennies or maybe you’re just giving a
small tip that you wouldn’t even give
the waiter at your favorite restaurant
and so you’re dishonoring God it’s not
that people don’t know how to offer they
don’t know what it means to honor
because if you throw some change on the
floor for the waiter to pick up you’re
not honoring him all right
people have no idea what it means to
honor it’s not that they don’t know how
to offer and someone that doesn’t know
how to honor also doesn’t know how to
worship God it’s impossible that someone
can lift their hands and say Sovereign
God
and not a single dollar if there’s falls
into the
into the urn
even though God deserves all praise and
worship
he doesn’t need it we do it out of honor
and because we need to worship Him
so those that don’t know how to offer
I have the theory that they also don’t
know how to worship
because they might think that God has a
self-esteem issue or a hormonal issue
and he needs us to worship him because
they only look where there is need they
don’t know what it means to honor so in
the same way when the Kings and the
presidents and the prime ministers
meet one another will sometimes see it
on the news or on the newspaper they
abstain intentionally from giving the
other person something that they need
because giving to fulfill someone else
another Leader’s need
is to expose vulnerability in them that
wouldn’t be honorable Mr President I
wanted to give you this deodorant
because the other day when I greeted you
I I’ve realized that the one that you’ve
used abandoned you
would you give a toothbrush or something
floss to a president saying I had it at
home I thought you might be able to use
it
if a leader someone that we love
something that they need or saying that
we’ve discovered
something lacking in their life when
we’re fulfilling a need we’re saying I’m
giving you something you don’t have it’s
fine we’re going to feed those that are
living on the streets we’re giving them
something that they don’t have
honor is something different
that’s why in order to honor great
leaders
they always exchange luxurious gifts
something typical from their country or
a picture frame
if you pay for someone’s coffee it’s not
because that person can’t do it on their
own but because you want to honor them I
want to honor You by paying for your
coffee
then it’s the other person that can’t go
into the cafeteria because they don’t
have any money
if you tell the person in front of you
hey can I pay for your coffee it’s not
that you’re telling them you look like a
rat you probably can’t pay for this
coffee I want to honor you
it’s happened to me at restaurants where
I’ve gone in and the waiter says to me
somebody paid for your bill
first of all if I didn’t have money to
pay for the bill I wouldn’t be at that
restaurant but the waiter said somebody
wants to honor you and they’ve paid for
the bill and then that’s where I start
to order more dessert and everything
else I didn’t order no no just kidding
just kidding
why did I order the cheapest thing today
no just
that’s what honor produces with that
being said I’m going to go into a few
difficult topics because up until now
what I’ve shared are very profound
principles but it’s not the difficult
part of Honor this is where it gets
harsh
and those of you that get up unless
you’re going to go to the bathroom it’s
going to look terrible if you leave
scripture says in Ephesians 6 2.
honor your father and mother which is
the first commandment with a promise
so that it may go well with you and that
you may enjoy long life on the Earth
there’s no other Commandment that has a
promise it doesn’t say do not kill so
that you don’t get acne
do not steal so that you don’t go bald
no no the only one that has a promise
honoring our parents
isn’t a suggestion it’s not a
recommendation
it’s not advice some think that it’s
advice yeah yeah I’ll take that advice
no it’s not advice it’s a commandment
it’s an order
and dishonoring your parents has also
become The New Normal of this Century
it’s rooted in our culture
we said that true honor originates in
the heart and Jesus
reaffirms out of the fullness of the
heart the mouth speaks and it surprises
me it’s not that I’m
getting older antique it surprises me
the way in which many children treat
their parents the way in which they
speak to their parents with a lot of
confidence
parents are not children’s friends
they’re parents they’re not homies
they’re not
friends or Pals no
and I’ve seen children treating their
parents like stupid people rolling their
eyes at them or sighing or or making
gestures even insulting them
try to remember those of you that are
for my generation hard head would be
spinning like a top
from the slap in the face that we would
receive when we did something that
wasn’t tolerated in our home the lack of
respect the lack of respect
is
anything that we did
any slip up we might receive Grace but
if we disrespected our parents that was
a line that we could not cross it would
never occur to us Deuteronomy 27 16.
cursed is anyone who dishonors their
father or mother
and to be cursed is a serious
problem it’s not a recommendation God
didn’t necessarily say
cursed be the one who steals or kills or
curse be the one who practices sexual
immorality or curse be the one who
practices witchcraft no but God says
Those Who dishonor their mother and
father are cursed and let’s remember
that dishonoring is to treat someone as
common ordinary
in a humiliating way in the worst of
cases
so one of the strongest examples in
scripture is ham ham was Noah’s youngest
son after the flood
Noah dedicated his life to agriculture
so what nice scripture says that Noah
drank too much
and he became drunk
and once he was drunk he stumbled to his
tent took off all his clothes and passed
out completely naked so ham when he went
into the tent where his father was lying
naked
he saw him and he ran out and told his
brothers joking laughing about him he
said hey you guys have to see this our
old man is passed out drunk completely
naked don’t miss it look how ridiculous
it is good thing there was in social
media otherwise he would have posted it
when Shem and japheth
his two brothers
heard the jokes from their brother they
responded in a different way they
grabbed a tunic they put it over their
shoulders
they walked into the tent walking
backwards and they dropped the tunic on
their father’s naked body
they didn’t want to see their father’s
shame the following morning Noah woke up
he discovered what ham had done and
Genesis 9 25 tells he said cursed be
Canaan the lowest of slaves
will he be to his brothers
he also said praise be to the Lord the
god of Shem make an End be the slave of
Shem may God extend jaffet’s territory
May defense live in the tents of Shem
and make Canaan be the slave of Japan so
this was a prophetic word for many
generations
ham Dishonored his father and that curse
not only reached him but his children
his grandchildren his descendants that’s
where the Canaanites
come from those that inhabit Palestine
and some of you might think yeah he
became drunk how are we going to honor a
man
who made a fool out of himself who made
himself look crazy yeah but Noah’s
moral failure was a test for his
children and it revealed their hearts
this isn’t to cover up sin
one thing is
to cover up not cover ups and then the
other thing is public cannibalism the
Bible says honor your mother and your
father
not because they deserve it because the
majority don’t deserve it we’re all bad
parents glory to God
that there’s someone like me here today
we’re all bad parents
who can learn to be a parent before
their one
before they become one
as we learn to become a parent we lose
our lives we lose the years
so we’ll be the parents that we had
we might say my parents should have
raised me better they shouldn’t have
abandoned me they shouldn’t have abused
me they shouldn’t have hit me but we’re
also going to make mistakes and our
children will also judge us the way we
do but what I want to say is in any case
God deals with immorality or parents
mistakes the same way he dealed with
Noah’s mistake God is the one that
judges but we need to honor honoring
doesn’t mean we have to applaud or agree
with what they do
it’s like loyalty at church loyalty is
misunderstood I’m loyal as long as I
agree no loyalty is loyalty
David was loyal to his father-in-law
Saul and Saul wanted to kill him but he
was loyal I will not touch
God’s anointed
loyalty isn’t loyalty if you are only
loyal when you agree
Loyalty means I will honor won’t my
father abandoned me well it doesn’t
matter wherever he is I want anything
bad about him if I have nothing good to
say I won’t say anything
see how simple it is you might say well
I have nothing good to say all right
then don’t say anything
don’t poison don’t contaminate just
honor the memory of those that are not
here anymore
think about them through experience or
the mistakes you don’t want to make but
when you dishonor you’re cursed and the
Bible says honor them so you may do well
so you may have a long life so you don’t
have a premature death and some might
say
well that’s how it is well yeah it’s in
the Bible
if not you should be asking yourself why
are you here because I’m not telling you
something that I believe no I’m backing
it with the scripture honor your mother
and your father so you do well we don’t
debate whether murder is good or bad
it’s not subject to debate if
fornication or other sins are bad or
good
then why do we try and debate whoa the
Lord didn’t know the parents I was given
how what do you mean he didn’t know now
let’s turn the tortilla over
us parents also have to honor our
children because many times I’ve heard
parents
speak to their children in such
degrading ways even humiliate them in
public
I once heard the story of a Christian
father that told his daughter that if
she didn’t lose weight
she would never get married
he told her daughter learn to close your
mouth to shut your mouth because you
look like a whale and if you don’t stop
eating nobody’s going to notice you ever
you’ll be single for the rest of your
life
and in an overwhelming
sense of Shame she went to her room
locked the door took off her clothes and
looked at her body in the mirror and for
the first time
she hated it
and she hated what she saw
and at that moment she became very
self-conscious of her size
and all she ever thought about was her
weight so she began to
eat different foods she reduced the
proportion she began to lose weight but
she never forgot the words of the man
because she had admired most from when
she was a little girl her own father and
she developed a new paradigm in her mind
if I’m thin
then I’m worthy of love and attention
but if I’m fat
not even my dad likes me and that
mentality has situated her in a
descending spiral until she deteriorated
in a state of bulimia but and
anorexia
and she developed a love-hate
relationship with food she loved eating
but she hated being fat
she took to laxatives and diuretics she
became addicted until she eventually
didn’t have any bowel movement for a
month and she ended up in the hospital
God healed her heart
her body healed and she wrote a book
called you are not what you weigh and it
was a great success and in that book
she tells the story
of how much of this she could have
avoided
if my father would have managed the
situation I was living in in a different
way and if he would have chosen words of
affirmation and acceptance instead of
degrading my physical aspect
she asks herself if he had chosen a more
constructive way
to focus on maintaining a healthy weight
and a healthy diet
so us parents we can dishonor our
children in many different ways not just
by insulting them or telling them
negative words but also negating
positive words
I was brought up with that philosophy
of not using positive words and the
great majority of us
even though
I share the positive of what we learned
I have to share the negative
my parents would say when you do things
well you I’m not going to say anything
to you
you should do what you have to do
I would say Mom I gotta get great and
she would say what do you want me to
throw you a party at your obligation you
don’t do anything else in this home but
go to school and do your work I work
here all day I clean the house I wash
your clothes and now you want me to
congratulate you because you got a good
grade on your test
but if my grades went down just a little
bit huh
then the rapper man would come and our
our children need a lot of affirmation a
lot of encouragement they need to be
told that they’re loved that they’re
valued and if we don’t tell them this
they’re going to look for that approval
in the wrong places but they’re going to
seek out that approval whether it’s with
friends addictions or what’s worse
they’re going to
try and feel valuable in other people’s
beds
there are girls that give up sex because
they say that’s that that’s all they’re
sure of because he tells me that I make
him happy because at home I don’t make
anyone happy so she doesn’t have a
problem with promiscuity but a
self-esteem problem with her value the
only place she feels valuable is in a
bed and the only place you feel secure
is in a bed but then she’s not secure
about anything because her parents
always highlighted the negative
so a great damage can come
when just some words of encouragement
could have healed the wounds
words of encouragement avoid a lot of
headaches and when I speak of Honor I
also speak about correcting correcting
with love I’m going to give you another
biblical example so that you don’t say
oh it just occurred to him
King David had many
children from many different wives he
was a promiscuous King he had a lot of
fun he had a distracted Moral Moral
morals film
his first son was amnon and his third
son was Absalom
amnon did something terrible to one of
his sisters Tamara was his half-sister
but it was Absalom absalom’s
full sister
so amnon when they pretended to be sick
and he told his father why don’t you
send me to my sister Tamar so that she
can tend to me like a nurse when she
arrived
he kicked out all his other servants
closed the door and he rapes her after
he raped her
he threw her out of his bedroom
he had Dishonored a virgin princess and
destroyed her life with shame
when Absalom realized this he hates
amnon logically for having Dishonored
his sister
and he awaits for his father to bring
Justice
time goes by the king doesn’t say
anything he doesn’t do anything and
Absalom is devastated he said this guy
wants to be the king he wants to Reign
Over Zion but he can’t even govern his
own home he waits a year and his father
never does anything so one day Absalon
decides to take matters into his own
hands
he threw a party he stabbed his brother
the rapist fled but he harbored a
visceral hatred against his father David
for having ignored the outrage for not
having exercised discipline
and it was such a great hatred that from
his exile
he plotted a coup and decided to go
after his father’s Crown so the conflict
is so intense
now King David had to escape to save his
life and Absalom was consumed by hate to
make the story short Absalom was
assassinated by one of King David’s
soldiers
an inheritor to the throne who died in
the prime of his life
and someone else who died by being
stabbed in the back by his half-brother
all this tragedy and all this pain could
have been avoided if David applied
discipline to amnon
but what about
what about the girl the princess
how do you think she felt when she
realized that her father never did
anything to defend her honor
so she probably hated her father as well
her life could have been different if
her father punished the rapist
how could these family tragedies have
been avoided
if he would have honored his children if
he would have honored his children by
applying discipline
now look this might be the generation
that honors the least and that’s not the
devil’s fault that’s every parent’s
fault
so denying to discipline
one of his children then Dishonored all
his children and of course he Dishonored
God of course I’ve gotten to know many
parents
that are slow to correct their children
because they don’t want to lose
he’s in their household they don’t want
to lose their own piece you know the
joke that I always tell you
of the little boy that’s making a mess
at the supermarket and the father says
behave behaved your behave be conjured
and the kid is destroying everything
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let there be peace in your heart Joel
let there be peace and a mother walking
down the aisle says I admire your peace
how you speak yourself with so much love
and he says no I’m Joel
and just like Joel I know many families
that try to sweep everything under the
rug they never speak about anything
profound and they’re experts in
pretending and faking it they get
together to eat but all under a
superficial culture
they never talk about the daughter that
got divorced
son son to father
they don’t talk about the manipulation
the oldest sibling
is abusing or the youngest’s addiction
no the important thing is to have a good
time during the holidays bring something
to celebrate some wine some tequila and
we’ll have a great time with their
family no that’s not having a good time
they’re living in a culture of let’s not
touch upon uncomfortable topics let’s
get together for Christmas and let’s
pretend that everything’s okay
and those children that are never put in
uncomfortable positions or that are
never corrected they end up feeling
dishonor from their parents
it’s not that they say oh my dad he’s
he’s a good pal he never
he never disciplines me no
because what parents are trying to avoid
by not correcting them is what they end
up doing by not disciplining them
because the children say that the
parents have no Authority and sooner or
later
it’s some a price that we won’t be able
to pay
the children will say my dad never stood
up in the household my mother never
spoke
well she should have spoken
my mother would always yell about
foolishness but she never stood firm
and spoke about serious things and
that’s the ironic thing and the tragic
thing is that those children continue to
make poor decisions
so Proverbs 13 24 gives a raw diagnosis
whoever spares the rod hates their
children
but the one who loves their children is
careful to discipline them
whoever doesn’t correct hates their
children
but whoever disciplines them loves them
honoring our children is I will on I
will correct you
you can’t buy me this no of course I can
I just don’t want to because we were
brought up in the culture of oh I can’t
we don’t have money and now we live in a
culture where we can there’s credit
there’s a card we can but they have to
understand that not everything that they
can or everything they want will be done
not everything will be done in the
moment they need it
so how can we correct a child well
you’re gonna go a week without internet
without a phone and you might say no but
he’s a man a 14 year old man yeah but he
lives under your roof
he doesn’t pay rent you wash his
underwear while he doesn’t wash his own
underwear and while he can’t pay the
rent where he stores his underwear
he’s going to be corrected Proverbs 29
15 says a rod and a reprimand impart
wisdom but a Child Left undisciplined
disgrace as its mother
foreign so the child that is spoiled
will eventually
disgrace us
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I once told the story of a boy who went
and robbed the bank and ended up in
prison
and when the mother went to go visit him
he asked her to come as close as
possible because he wanted to share a
secret
and when she got close the boy bit off a
piece of her ear
the guards took him back to his cell
while a guard yelled out you can’t be
such a bad man
you wounded your own mother
that’s a line that you crossed
and the man said well that woman that
calls herself my mother laughed when I
told her I stole some pencils from
school
and she applauded me when I said I stole
a calculator from a friend because she
said that now she didn’t have to buy me
one if she would have corrected me on
time she would have obligated me to
return to things
that weren’t mine and I wouldn’t be
rotting in a prison cell right now so we
have responsibility over what our
children will be later on
because they’ll remember when we stayed
quiet or when we left when we shouldn’t
have left when we celebrated
the mistakes that they shouldn’t have
celebrated
this is a Biblical principle
parents that don’t correct or reprimand
think that they’re more wise than God
and in that way that this they dishonor
God
in the same way that they’re dishonoring
their children correcting is difficult
because your child is going to say I
hate you you’re the worst parent ever
whenever I can I’ll leave your trash
and the more they insult you the more
you’ll correct them
memorial correct them until they realize
that they can’t bend your arm because
God placed you as the priest the high
priest of the home
so
the pattern
is when parents don’t correct their
children the children
will not value the parents if you wanted
this on your kids go out and buy them
everything they want when they throw a
fit
say oh I don’t want to lose peace but
let me go deeper
on this topic of Honor Proverbs 3 9 says
honor the Lord honor God
that doesn’t mean coming to church once
a week
it means respect have reverence for God
above
everyone
nothing no one can be more important
than God when do we dishonor God whoa
when we value a person
or something above God
and as such when the honor to someone
goes beyond the honor that we give to
God or The Obedience we should have to
God
then that goes into the category of
idolatry somebody made up
and this will continue to make your
theology uncomfortable but I want you to
pay attention before you Stone me
someone invented the phrase God first
then family then Menace then your
ministry but this requires clarification
it’s not completely true but it’s not a
complete lie they say first God then
family then your ministry first we
should clarify
what a Ministry is your ministry is not
coming to church but it’s uh Divine
assignment from God the biblical order
was always God assignment and then
family
of course when this is misunderstood We
Believe
that
God pray at church and then tend to your
family no let me explain it Proverbs 24
27
put your outdoor work in order
and get your Fields ready after that
build your house
we’re never going to see God telling
Abraham leave your home and your country
but if Sarah doesn’t agree let me know
and then I’ll change the Commandment I
don’t want you to lose peace at your
home you know Sarah sometimes is a
little extreme or to Joseph look Joseph
have a dream for you
but make sure that your brothers are in
support I don’t want family problems
they might sell you like a slave
or to Jonah hey look Jonah the idea is
that you go to Nineveh the first consult
with Miss Jonah because if not I’ll go
look for another candidate
or the Holy Spirit telling Mary
may God save you Mary the idea is for
you to give birth to the Messiah but
first consult with Joseph maybe he won’t
support you and it’ll break your
relationship or Jesus to Peter before
you follow me and throw your nets why do
we why don’t you consult with your
wife and your mother-in-law I don’t want
to generate problems at your home
they wouldn’t have understood the
assignment
didn’t believe in Moses’s assignment
jobs
wife didn’t believe in his assignment
Jesus’s own brothers were his family but
they didn’t believe in his assignment
that’s why you have to differentiate
Ministry from assignment
just said in Matthew 10 20 34 do not
suppose that I have come to bring peace
to the Earth
I did not come to bring peace but a
sword for I have come to turn a man
against his father a daughter against
his mother a daughter-in-law against her
mother-in-law a Man’s enemies will be
the members of his own household anyone
who loves their father or mother more
than me is not worthy of me
anyone who loves their son or daughter
more than me is not worthy of me
in another more simple translation if
you prefer your parents your mother your
father more than me or if you prefer
your children more than me then you
don’t don’t deserve to be mine if you
don’t carry your cross and follow me you
don’t deserve me
those that didn’t leave Holmes mothers
fathers children brothers sisters or
lands in my name
they will lose their life for my sake
there aren’t many amens for this but
it’s there in the Bible now
I want to make this clear this is an
excuse to abandon your fate your family
and live by faith
I’ve gotten to know many lazy people who
allege that they had the ministry of
preaching to the Nations and they travel
through the world while they abandoned
their wife and their children
it’s very easy to
use it at four or five kids
travel through the world to preach they
love to make that kid
but they didn’t enjoy bringing them up
they love to go out and preach and see
what offering they can get
they say God called me to this ministry
no that’s not what scripture shows
First Timothy 5 8 says anyone who does
not provide for their relatives and
especially for their own household has
denied the faith and is worth than an
unbeliever
you have to provide for your own first
for those in your household are we in
agreement yes or no now
in fact
there are assignments that can be for
the household
there are mothers who have spent their
whole lives serving disabled children
that’s their assignment
never leaving their children there are
wives whose assignment is to serve their
husband who has the great calling and
she has to be there raising the children
what I’m trying to say is that when God
gives us an assignment a mission
and the first thing we want to do is
honor someone above that mandate that’s
where we sin against God another
biblical example so you don’t say I’m
making things up
Eli was a high priest that he was in
charge of the Tabernacle his children
were Scoundrels they were fools they had
no respect for the Lord they had no
respect for the people much less for
their obligations as priests you know
what Eli’s children did they would keep
the offering they would keep the biggest
bills the best part
however
that wasn’t enough they would commit
depravities they would rape young girls
inside the temple and the father was
completely aware of his what his
children were doing first Samuel 2 23
mentions that he confronts him and he
said why do you do such things
I hear from all the people about these
Wicked Deeds of yours no my sons the
report I hear spurting among the Lord’s
people is not good that’s all he said to
them
he sounds like flat Mr Flanders I don’t
hear good things about you that was all
the reprimand
he continued to allow
his children to serve as priests he
didn’t discipline them he didn’t kick
them out he didn’t correct them it’s a
clear case of nepotism
one of the Sacred cows
in today’s churches
is that the pastor’s son
inherits the church that’s like saying
the son of a surgeon is going to operate
one day even though they didn’t go to
medical school
oh they’re going to have give you a
heart surgery who’s the surgeon oh my
son did he go to medical school no but
he’s my son
or that a lawyer son is going to defend
you in court never studied law
never studied
in law school
we think that pastors children have to
work at the church that there’s no other
thing that they can do but no
there are cases where the sun’s Ministry
supersedes the fathers yeah that’s
organic
but sometimes it’s pathetic sometimes I
see
believers
there have been Believers for years have
to sit down and listen to a young man
preaching he has no experience here
inherited everything
if Eli would have truly honored God
he would have
separated his children from the
assignment
but since he doesn’t do it a prophet on
behalf of God Appears because nothing
escapes God you cannot scam God
and he says
therefore the Lord God of Israel has
said
why do you score in My Sacrifice and
offering that I have prescribed for my
dwelling why do you honor your sons More
Than Me by fattening yourselves on the
choice parts of every offering made by
My People Israel first Samuel 2 29.
and the prophet continued and sentenced
them therefore the Lord God of Israel
declares I promised that members of your
family would Minister before me forever
but now the Lord declares
far be it from me those who honor me I
will honor but those who despise me will
be disdained
we can’t put our children above God be
careful
when we don’t correct them we dishonor
God
I have another biblical example it’s
even more harsh
Moses was someone who was about to lose
it all
he plays someone above God his mistake
was so serious that God was willing to
kill him
despite me this might be the most
strange verse in all the Bible Exodus 4
24 at a lodging place on the way the
Lord met Moses and was about to kill him
almost no one preaches about that it
says if it’s not in the Bible
of course because the Lord had just
appeared to him through a Burning Bush
Moses came down from the mountain he
gathered his wife and his children and
he said we’re going to Egypt because the
Lord said I have an assignment the first
not the night that they camped
the Lord came out to kill Moses
why would he try and kill someone that
he just told to go free his people is
the Lord schizophrenic
but what happened
the story doesn’t give us some small
details but it’s very easy to fill the
voids and the gaps in the story
when Moses came down from the mountain
he has a conversation with his wife
zipporah
before she started her Makeup Company
Sephora
is a woman from Midian
one of the Seven Daughters of a man
named Jethro an Arab group and I imagine
the conversation being like this my love
the Lord appeared to me and he said I
have to go back to Egypt to free my
people from the slavery of pharaoh and
his wife zebra says all right let’s go
old man I’m with you when are we leaving
well now but we have to do something
first on the mountain the Lord reminded
me of the Pacquiao with Abraham he said
we have to circumcise our two sons we’ll
start with gershom
for some reason zipperah doesn’t oppose
it she circumcised Gershon
she gets to the younger one Elisa
she puts her hands on her hips stands in
front of her son and says you know what
you’re not going to torture my little
one I won’t allow it before that and the
Sephora makeup runs down her face
I don’t know what kind of crew God you
have but that’s enough for today
and now imagine a big fight they’re both
yelling at each other maybe she
threatens Moses the fight lasts the
whole day the whole night the following
day they sleep separate he sleeps on the
couch everything gets worse
finally Moses is fed up with his woman’s
resistance
and thinks I’m tired of fighting I have
a call to go and free a whole nation and
I’m with this crazy this this wife of
mine I need a little bit of peace
again the same pattern no I don’t want
to confront my children because we’ll
lose peace Christmas will be ruined
well this is the same no no I want to
have peace so he gives in and he says
zipper all right it’s fine let’s go
let’s go
they’re on their way to Egypt and there
the Lord appears to them
to kill Moses because he decided to
respect his wife instead of honoring God
God isn’t willing to tolerate that from
a chosen leader
however
when Moses’s wife sees that he God is
going to kill Moses she grabs a flint
knife and cuts off her son’s foreskin
she does it herself
and touched Moses’s feet with it
he says but cipra took a flint knife cut
off her son’s foreskin and touched
Moses’s feet with it
surely you are a bridegroom of blood
Tamisha said
and that’s where it’s supposed that they
separate
and Moses Let Her Go
he continued on to Egypt so what
happened was the circumcision so
important no for Moses he just wanted to
keep the peace
instead of being a peacemaker Jesus
never said blessed are those who
maintain the peace no he said blessed
are though the blessed are the
peacemakers
who keep the peace but make concessions
to the truth
correcting your children
isn’t going to be a pleasant moment in
your home there are going to be shouts
from the other end your children will
disrespect you you’re going to have to
continue provoking peace
us leaders also fall into that trap of
maintaining peace at church
and that’s where you honor someone above
God
when you want to honor who you
see but don’t honor who you can’t see
a peacemaker is different from someone
who wants to keep the peace they will
confront if they have to because they
want true peace right true peace
when you want true peace you’ll have to
confront that’s what it means to have
true peace and sometimes you have to
confront
those that want to maintain peace just
want to leave things the way they are
and when we when we leave things the way
they are God will come out and kill us
or he won’t come out and kill us but
other things in our lives will begin to
die because we want to maintain peace
there are people that don’t want to have
problems with their spouse they don’t
want to have problems with their
mother-in-law they don’t want to have
problems with their children they don’t
want to have problems with church
members they don’t want to have problems
with pastors
and they give a microphone to every
Pastor so they can all say some foolish
thing because if not they might leave
the church and when a pastor wants to
honor people above God then there’s
something that will die his presence his
glory his anointing something will die
as a leader I’ve had many problems
because I’ve I haven’t honored certain
people that
wanted to open the message or they also
wanted to preach or I also want to I’ve
had problems with that but my assignment
is to take care
of the Sacred not becoming common taking
care of what God has given us so to not
have problems
some people ignore certain things but
sometimes we have to confront Moses just
like Eli tried to maintain the Peace by
sweeping all the uncomfortable things
under the rug but you can’t do that
sometimes to have true peace you have to
declare war
sometimes there are times of War if you
want peace there will be War okay
because there are people that won’t
understand that we want to maintain
things the way they are
if we want peace there’s going to be War
we do not negotiate with terrorists we
don’t negotiate with terrorists there
will be War
M and many parents
by trying to maintain peace it’s they’re
not peacemakers they’re dishonoring God
what many spouses do
when they shut their mouths is not
maintaining peace
better said it’s keeping the peace but
it’s not making peace they’re
dishonoring God
there are moments in life where you have
to say all right I’m going to refinance
my relationships what does that mean to
refinance relationships this is wrong
this is bad we have to fix it we have to
change it there’s no way that our kids
can leave at any time and return at
whatever time they want if they’re
eating from our table we have to
refinance hey what’s up with you Dad
what’s up with you Mom no I’m
refinancing
I’m done trying to keep the peace I’m
going to be a peacemaker
refinancing there are certain things you
have to do because if you don’t do them
then we’re going to drag that with us
and at a certain point God will say
you’re dishonoring me there’s an
assignment that’s given to us as
husbands as parents
as children as Leaders let’s remember
honor is a condition of the heart honor
opens paths for us honor gives us Health
honor gives us Eternal youth
honor seats us at the tables of Kings
Our Lives flow through honor so first we
honor God
then our assignment our assignment can
be being a parent being a mother or
father of course or it can be I’m
sending you for this purpose
we honor our family we honor our parents
we honor our children our authorities
and even our enemies we honor them
I always say the nature of a scorpion is
to sting a skunk’s nature is to pee
Messi’s nature is to score goals a
mother-in-law’s nature is to speak
against her daughter-in-law and River’s
nature is to honor that’s what we do
we’re people of honor honor is the last
lost virtue of this generation and we’re
going after it
we can’t lose it we can’t resign to
losing it our homes have to have honor
honor your grandma your grandpa if
they’re alive even if they’re foolish
even if they have Alzheimer’s
honor your elders
honor the women in the home under the
children in the home honor like I said
includes discipline refinancing
relationships stop paying
Eternal mortgages honor isn’t paying
Eternal mortgages when I say mortgage I
mean an emotional mortgage
oh no I owe this person this because
they brought me to this country no
there’s a moment where you pay it back
but you have to say no that’s it
I can’t do this for the rest of my life
let’s not confuse honor with paying
quotas you honor who honored us thank
you up to this point and then we
continue because someone can open the
door for you to come in but then the
person that keeps you here is the Lord
the person that holds you up is the lord
always are you with me
we’re going to get on our feet
I want us together to ask the Holy
Spirit to seal this word
to bless us
to confirm
each person’s assignment
no matter where God placed us
May the Holy Spirit seal
that assignment that mission
those of us that have been bad parents
those that have been bad spouses those
of us that have been bad children
we’re going to say Lord teach me to be
better teach me how to Value honor to
you God above everything this is a call
to all those that are watching those
that are here so that we can ask for
forgiveness so that we can repent it’s
not a call to say oh that person has to
change oh this would be a good sermon
for that person no this is good for us
we’ve also lost our way
we do not demand honor in our homes and
some of us have lost honor honor isn’t
giving a picture frame to someone a
speaking well of a pastor note honor is
seen
in everything we do if we treat a waiter
with respect if we give him a
sacrificial offering we honor with our
offerings when we come to church we
honor with our time by paying attention
to what God speaks to us we honor our
children by correcting them
by not ignoring things speaking about
uncomfortable topics proposing
topics that we don’t want to speak of
looking for the right moment not every
moment is the right moment but there’s a
moment where we should say okay let’s
face this uncomfortable topic let’s
reach a solution or not
but let’s do it that’s what a peacemaker
is not someone who just sweeps things
under the rug I come from a generation
and with this all finished but I come
from a generation where
you would find out about family secrets
after your grandparents died remember
an unrecognized child would appear
usually this happened around the the
coffin
because people would come to the funeral
and you would realize oh no it seems
that the grandpa was crazier a grammar a
month everything was under the rug it
was all about keeping your appearance
make the picture look good not try and
keep the peace and to make peace
sometimes like I said you have to
promote battle war this will be resolved
if it’s not resolved today it’ll be
tomorrow if not next month but we have
to say
things have to change
zero tolerance to a lack of respect zero
tolerance to dishonor in my home and
let’s begin in our homes under our roofs
let’s not expect to change the world
let’s change
those of those that are sleeping under
our roof and that’ll be the first change
so that the Lord gives us the Nations so
that the changes happen in all other
continents we’re going to declare that
our lives will change from here on out
we’re going to close our eyes and pray
to the Lord those that are here for the
first time watching this message Stay
With Me Lord Jesus change my life
forgive my sins
write my name in The Book of Life
Lord transform me thank you thank you
for this word
to everyone everyone if you can wherever
you are lift up your hands and say Lord
thank you for this word thank you
because honor has penetrated me I’m
speaking to those that haven’t lived
miracles in many years Miracles have
left your life because you haven’t
honored the Lord and you’ve seen him as
ordinary I’m speaking to those that
haven’t honored when they give they only
give when there is need and they haven’t
known what it means to pour out
expensive perfume at the feet of Jesus
I’m honoring though all those that have
gone I’m calling those
that have Dishonored their enemies
looking against them and they haven’t
had the Dignity of the Archangel when he
said the Lord rebuke you we’re going to
change the Paradigm honor will be our
flag honor will be our standard
honor will be what we choose every day
every morning in our lives and each day
that flag
will continue waving in our hearts honor
father women
and man
that our honorable rise up in River men
and women of Honor
men and women of their of their word of
Integrity of promises that are kept
I’m not speaking about an absence of
problems I’m speaking about efficient
honor
honor directed to Heaven horizontally
and even to those that are below us
father we honor our lives we honor your
life
from here on out we honor our families
you’ve spoken a word to us this morning
and I’m convinced that many will have to
hear this message a couple more times so
that each phrase each word may be
digested
so that can be a part of our Dynamic of
Life Lord thank you because this morning
you love us so much that’s why you speak
to us this way how the lord loves you
oh how the lord loves you how the lord
loves you he is brought a word
of comfort words that sustain Our lives
our families our being father thank you
for this moment thank you forgive us if
we’ve been unfaithful to our assignment
if somebody has come to speak to us if
somebody has distracted us forgive us if
we’ve lost our Focus but this is the
time says the Lord where I’m sending you
and I
put your people in agreement with you
they will accompany you because you’ve
decided to honor Me Above others I bless
this church lift up your hands and say
Lord I receive this blessing the
anointing of despair
touch each
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person’s mother each child each home
each Place each home I bless Lord
fill this home with glory and anointing
this house of God the door of Heaven I
bless your children I bless your Army in
your Name Lord we say amen amen and amen
glory to Jesus
we would stay here praying and
ministering for hours but there’s always
another service give a grand Applause to
the Lord of lords and King of Kings
people of Honor
until next Sunday
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